How To Let Go Of A Destroyed Relationship

Our blog is about bringing peace and love, and we always believe in the joy that love can bring into relationships. But as we all know, life is never a smooth ride and nobody is ever perfect. Without question, there would be bumpy roads awaiting you when you are in love with someone, and among these bumpy roads, the most challenging one would be when you are left with no choice but to let go of him or her.

Breaking up is hard to do. But when you love someone, you would want nothing else but to see him or her happy, and if he or she is happy being released, you would have to do it no matter how heavy your heart is.

It is actually not because he or she detests you, but it is most probably because both of you are going in different frequencies, and he or she just feels better off when you set him or her free.

When you are stuck in this situation, you know you have to get out of it someday. It is a painful process, but it would be pointless to dwell over it knowing that it is never going to work. Perhaps some of you here are enduring this predicament right now and are finding ways to mend your broken hearts. It is always possible to talk it out to friends or family members, but eventually, it is up to you to get yourself moving on from being haunted by the past. So how would you let go and move on from your destroyed love? Let us see what can be done to solve this problem:

Analyze whether your expectations of a life partner are too low. You are a human who deserves to be loved by someone who would stick with you till the end. Why tread into dangerous waters? Why lead a miserable life with someone who has betrayed you and left you alone? You should be leading a happy life, with a trustworthy and loyal person. So set higher expectations. You are entitled to do it.

Do not let your mind keep wondering about your former partner. When you do that, you are backing off from achieving your goals and dreams and depriving yourself of a better future. Concentrate on the rest of your aspects of life that you still can look forward to and go for.

Do not perceive everyone the same just because of your past relationship that did not work. Not all men and women are such hurtful people. Take your time to find it in your heart to believe once again. The beauty of love is that there is someone for everyone. All you need to do is have faith that there is a good person out there who will shower you with all the love you need.

Take that bitter experience as something that you can learn from rather than something you would sulk about. That is what an experience in life is for, even in relationships. If you can do that, things could turn out better than you thought, especially when you have finally found the right person.

Things in this world are never perfect. There is always a point in time where someone breaks your heart. But do not let that heartbreak bring you down to the ground. Be a hero, and pick yourself up. If you have to let go of your loved one, let him or her go and instill a strong belief in your heart that someday you will get the happiness you want. Yes, it is not an easy process, but you can do it if you make an effort to. Perhaps you may want to share with us if you had experienced having to let go of someone with a broken heart. We are here to listen and maybe help you out too.

Watch this beautiful music video on letting go

Speaking of letting go, we here are currently having this problem of letting go of three things. No it has nothing to do with relationships, but it has a lot to do with a tag by our dearest Jesse. Yes, she has tagged us to list three things that we simply cannot let go of and cannot live without.

These are the three things that we are talking about:

They are our flesh and blood and they are the ones who have stuck with us through thick and thin. They are the people whom we should all the more treasure in our lives. At times conflicts would arise between our families and us, but at the end of the day, we know that our lives would never be the same again without them by our sides.

People say money makes the world go round, but what makes our world go round is food. Food is a huge necessity for all of us anyway and we all need it in our daily lives. But of course, we always tell ourselves that we eat to live, not live to eat. So we try not to stuff ourselves too much with it as well. Still, we can never let go of food. There is never a day that we would forget about food glorious food.

This blog has become a major part of our lives and we would feel that something is amiss if we do not get to attend to our blog. It is through our blog that we could showcase our writing skills and knowledge, and most importantly, it is through our blog that we made a lot of amazing friends. Letting go of blogging would mean letting go of our wonderful friends here. We would not be this happy bunch of people if not for the love and support from all of you. We need blogging and we need you all.

We have let you heard from us. Now we would like to hear from you, our chosen ones!

Lee Chien


Shinade said...

Thank you guys for thinking of me. I know exactly what three things I could never let go's just getting the post done. You all did a terrific job...Wow as always very impressive!!~Jackie

Apple said...

Great post NAFA.
I've done the tag. Hope you enjoy reading it.
check it out here.


Hey Jackie!

Oh don't mention dear. We have always been thinking of u coz u are such a darling to us. Alright looking forward to your post on three things that u can't let go of! And thanks for your compliments for us. We really appreciate it. Love ya! =)

Hey Apple!

Thanks. Glad u like our post! U have done the tag? Cool! Will check it out at your blog. =)

Rolando said...

Hey NAFA, what a great reminder and into to a nice meme from Jesse.

I won't speak too much about break ups just because it's different for everyone. The pain is real though. Everyone needs to evaluate their relationships if they are unhappy.

I like to give the benefit of the doubt for the person i'm with, but there is usually a point where enough is enough.

At that point is almost like deciding between life and death metaphorically speaking.


Hey Rolando!

We're happy that u like the way we combine our post with Jesse's tag. The meme was such a great one and we knew we could not miss out on it! =)

Yes, no matter who initiates the break up or how it all happens, the pain is for real and can even last a lifetime for some. Of course, relationships have their ups and downs and that cannot be avoided. But like u said, evaluation has to be done. We have to analyze whether the relationship will soar or sore in the long run.

And yes, we are human and there will always be a time when we feel that we've had enough. But again, it falls back to whether u still think the relationship will soar or sore despite the 'glitches' there. Having to decide whether to break up or go on is a tough one, but well, we have to do what we feel and think is best for us and for our partners.

JesseTheCat said...

How great it feels to be back ! I missed you lots and wow, you did a really creative take on combining the tag with a post all about how to get out of a destroyed relationship.
Its a really important topic, as I see it, many people stay in a relationship that is no longer benefitting anyone and yet they stick it out, finding any excuse to cling to what is left.

If only more people would make clear decisions regarding what they want from a relationship, and feel confident that if it all falls apart, they will be ok if they move on.
I agree with every word in your post...I could not have written it any better myself.I hope that many people read may help them to make that decision when its neccessary! :)
Hope your day is great, and cant wait to read all the cool stuff here.I missed so much...still, one step at a time, right? :)


Yay Jesse is back!!

We miss u a lot too! So nice to see a comment from u on the tag u had given us here. It was great doing it! =)

Letting go of a relationship is without question one of the hardest things anyone has to do. It can break u apart, but it can make u too. Like u said, if u have the confidence to believe that everything will be fine even after a break up, then it will work out for u. We hope that we can reach out to those out there who have had their hearts broken and are still finding their directions to a better life.

Keep looking forward to more of our articles ok? Don't worry, u didnt miss much! There's more to come! =)

Anonymous said...

I had the love of my life and didn't even realize it til sadly it was to late... it has been one week since she has left and i am completly crushed because while she was in my life for close to 6 years i convinced myself i would be fine without her ...i swear to never treat anybody like that ever again ..huge eye opener ..but heres the good part right now she says at first she wants to be friends... Have you ever had a moment you wish you could take back ..i would give my soul to take back the way i made her feel...this is for all people with somebody you love please don't make the mistake i did and take people for granted in your life. Treat them the way they should.. like the queen or king of your life.

NafaSg said...

Hello there Mr Commenter..

Thanks for sharing your touching story with us and for reminding us all the importance of treasuring your loved ones. Glad to hear that she wants to be friends with u again, and we do hope that it will all turn out for the better from there. Good luck friend!