The Couple’s Golden Key To Reconciliation
When one rages with fire, the other has to be the water to put out the fire. But it is easier said than done. It actually takes a willpower made of steel! Without this steeled willpower, you could be landing yourself into a grave mistake.
It is typical of couples to be at loggerheads with each other, especially over major issues. However, this typical act from couples can result in a major catastrophe, if not being handled ‘professionally’.
This is possible when two people do not make an effort to be consoling towards each other. Yes, maybe one of you has an anger that seems to be inconsolable, and that means the other has to take one step back and be the one to compose things. But it will become a total disaster if both are inconsolable, and both do not wish to take a step back.
One of you would be blurting out the phrase ‘Let’s break up!’ and, worse still, abruptly realize that it was a wrong move. And trying to turn things around would be the hardest task for you, if your partner whom you had forsaken in the first place had decided to move on.
Perhaps for that couple that just cannot soothe the fury within, you would need to count on us to be the ‘mediator’! This would be a good read for you.
Even in the fit of anger, you should mind what you say. Anger can turn one into a ‘devil in disguise’ who would be spitting out fiery words to the other. But think! If you love someone, could you find it in your heart to spurt out such words? So focus on how much you love him or her, no matter how furious you are. Remind yourself of that and you would be able to avoid using harsh words on him or her.
Browse through those lovely pictures or videos of both of you during your happy times. That can console you a little, and probably make you be moved to reconcile.
Instead of pushing each other to the limits, act more like counselors to each other. Both of you should listen to each other attentively. Let one speak at a time! It is all right to show a little bit of frustration, but treat it more like a sharing session between the both of you, rather than a game of boxing.
All in all, it comes back to mutual compromising between each other. Adapt to each other’s needs and character traits, and work things out from there. If you need to tell your partner what to work on, do so in a milder way. In that way, your partner would not feel intimidated, and would also not blow his or her top too easily.
As the saying goes, what is done cannot be undone. How does it apply to this matter?
As mentioned earlier, if you were to end the relationship abruptly, you may soon realize that you had made a terrible blunder, and trying to turn things back to normal will become a test of patience for you. So couples, heed our advice here.
Angers and breakups are not the solution to everything. As long as you believe in your relationship, there are always better ways to work things out.