The Couple’s Golden Key To Reconciliation


When one rages with fire, the other has to be the water to put out the fire. But it is easier said than done. It actually takes a willpower made of steel! Without this steeled willpower, you could be landing yourself into a grave mistake.

It is typical of couples to be at loggerheads with each other, especially over major issues. However, this typical act from couples can result in a major catastrophe, if not being handled ‘professionally’.

This is possible when two people do not make an effort to be consoling towards each other. Yes, maybe one of you has an anger that seems to be inconsolable, and that means the other has to take one step back and be the one to compose things. But it will become a total disaster if both are inconsolable, and both do not wish to take a step back.

One of you would be blurting out the phrase ‘Let’s break up!’ and, worse still, abruptly realize that it was a wrong move. And trying to turn things around would be the hardest task for you, if your partner whom you had forsaken in the first place had decided to move on.

Perhaps for that couple that just cannot soothe the fury within, you would need to count on us to be the ‘mediator’! This would be a good read for you.




 Even in the fit of anger, you should mind what you say. Anger can turn one into a ‘devil in disguise’ who would be spitting out fiery words to the other. But think! If you love someone, could you find it in your heart to spurt out such words? So focus on how much you love him or her, no matter how furious you are. Remind yourself of that and you would be able to avoid using harsh words on him or her.

 Browse through those lovely pictures or videos of both of you during your happy times. That can console you a little, and probably make you be moved to reconcile.

 Instead of pushing each other to the limits, act more like counselors to each other. Both of you should listen to each other attentively. Let one speak at a time! It is all right to show a little bit of frustration, but treat it more like a sharing session between the both of you, rather than a game of boxing.

 All in all, it comes back to mutual compromising between each other. Adapt to each other’s needs and character traits, and work things out from there. If you need to tell your partner what to work on, do so in a milder way. In that way, your partner would not feel intimidated, and would also not blow his or her top too easily.

As the saying goes, what is done cannot be undone. How does it apply to this matter?

As mentioned earlier, if you were to end the relationship abruptly, you may soon realize that you had made a terrible blunder, and trying to turn things back to normal will become a test of patience for you. So couples, heed our advice here.

Angers and breakups are not the solution to everything. As long as you believe in your relationship, there are always better ways to work things out.






23 comments:

david santos said...

Thanks for posting, Nafago!
Very nice fhoto and good text.
Have a good week

NAFASG said...

Thank you for the compliments david. Glad you love the article..

Have a great week too, my friend. =)

Judy said...

In the bible, God says never put your head on the pillow without first reconciling with your spouse. :) Actually, my husband never picks an argument with me, it's me all the time! :(

We never not talk for more than 10 mins and it is normally my husband who is the one to make up by making me a cup of coffee, etc. I truly thank God for blessing me with him.

NAFASG said...

Hi Judy...

It is always the case. The woman would be the one to ignite the fire. Well, simply because women get carried away with their emotions easily. So once we realize that, we should do something to change our attitude.

But we're glad u have a wonderful husband for yourself. Let him guide you along, coz that is what a husband is for. To guide his wife, and children. =)

Fauzi said...

Oh well, love your article.. ;-)

You take care as well...

Joyce said...

Oh my gosh, that post really had me! I read every single word! Remember, a couple weeks ago.. when you asked how i was and i said, i wasn't good. And my life's complicated at the moment.. What i really mean by that is, I actually have tons of probs and issues that i have to deal with. AND ONE OF IT IS, LOVE!

During the past weeks, my friends have been asking me for advice on their relationships. Even at 2 in the morning! Of course, i try to help them out even if i'm sooo tired. BUT what hurts is, i'm trying to help all these people out, while in the first place I COULDN'T HELP MYSELF on my problem w/ my Boyfriend. We've been having issues, for the past weeks.. And timing is always wrong. Like today, we're suppose to talk about it, but i'm upset of him.. So all i'm giving him are nods. I wasn't speaking at all..

BUT WHEN I READ YOUR POST, I WAS LIKE... WOAH, THIS IS IT! THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I'VE BEEN LOOKING FOR. Thanks much, Nafa! I'm absolutely sure that you would help a lot of couples and probably even save relationships with that! big big thanksss!!!

NAFASG said...

Hello fauzi...

Thanks for loving the article. Hope this read will also guide u along in your love life. =)

Hey Joyce!

WOW! WHAT A COMPLIMENT! Thanks a lot for thinking highly of this article. What u have said definitely motivates us to post more valuable advice for all lovebirds out there. We will strive to save all the broken relationships with our articles! Thanks for your faith in us Joyce. *hugs* =)

Ok enough said, u need our comfort here right? Hey friend, love would not be love if not for all these setbacks in a relationship. Along the way things just have to happen, but whether the love survives depends on how both of you handle the situations. We can see that u have been crying in silence. So we believe that this article will help u work things out between u and your boyfriend, as much as u believe it will. =)

Good luck in your relationship. Don't give up hope! As long as both of u are meant to be, everything is going to be fine in the end ok? If u still have problems, remember, u can always talk it out to us yeah?

Take care! =)

WaterLearner said...

Hi Nafa!

A good one! Really enlightens one on the Ying & Yang of any Successful relationship.

NAFASG said...

Hi Karen!

Thanks! Great to hear that this article has enlightened u. =)

WaterLearner said...

Hi Nafa!

This is really a good article worth reading. I am reading it today again for a second time with contemplation.

Thanks & Blessings!

NAFASG said...

Hi Karen...

Wah i can see that this is your favourite article from us huh? Thanks for reading it again! Great to know that u are also giving some thoughts abt the content of this article. =)

Jean Chia said...

Hi Nafa, you are right on your article, if both doesn't to take a step back, it will end up with anger and separation. Breaking up because of temporary rage is absurd!

Me & my darling had a discussion about why ppls break up after years of marriage. Our conclusion of staying together for eternity is tolerance, understanding, trust & love. Usually when we argue, he is the one to be the water. I am more stubborn. But of coz I also need to pamper him abit sometimes lar, make him know that i appreciate him. :)

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NAFASG said...

Hey Jean!

Thanks for reading this article. Yes, taking a step back is essential. Like u said, breaking up in the fit of anger is absurd, just going to lead u into more trouble.

Well girls are normally the stubborn ones, particularly the girls of today. They want to take control of certain aspects of the relationship as much as the guys. But frankly, girls are rightfully the water in the relationship. We girls should take note of that.

Jean u are still young and we are sure that u will always be a great partner to your darling, as long as u persevere to learn from your experiences and mistakes. At least u still find it in your heart to appreciate his presence. =)

Bless said...

A moving post. Very enlightening. Thanks for sharing.

NAFASG said...

Hey bless...

Thanks for your comments. Great to hear a positive feedback from u! =)

Modern Barbarian said...

Hi, first time leaving message!
A nice post! Wish to hear more update from you!

NAFASG said...

Hello Modern Barbarian!

Thanks for taking your time to read this. Do look forward to more updates from us. U can definitely expect something new coming your way very soon! =)

irel said...

hi how are u doing? as for me have been running around been busy and still manage to spend sometime to visit soem friends:) tc always and enjoy the weekends:)

Fauzi said...

Hey, just to let you know, i think this is my 3rd time readiing this article.... I swear. This is interesting. ;-)

NAFASG said...

Hello Fauzi...

Wow it seems that those who have read this article before would end up reading again. This article must have really attracted all your attention!

Thanks for your compliment, and thanks for reading it for the third time. U are welcomed to read it for the fourth, or fifth, or...oh well simply said, read it as many times as u want. =)

Joyce said...

Oh you're absolutely welcome, dear. :) Well, i've always trusted your site. For its, uniqueness and Credibility. You manage to make it entertaining even w/ serious matters. Great Job! :) And again, thank you. :)

Yes, you're totally right. I have been crying it all out, on my own. Classmates & schoolmates started noticing it, last week. And kept asking me what's wrong, but i didn't speak up. FORTUNATELY...We've finally talked it out, last wedensday. And we're doing GREAT now! :D I'm really happy that things finally worked out. Yet again, you're right. That is SO TRUE. And yes, i believe in that. In relationships it takes two to tango! ALWAYS. Its never a one-man show. That's why me and my boyfriend, promised to be more mature in handling our issues. Nafa, thanks for being a REAL FRIEND, when i needed enlightenment. :) I really appreciate your advice. And i'll always put that in mind. You're like a friend and a.. BIG SIS to me now! (since i don't have any siblings) hehehe

And if you're also having any issues or problems, always remember that i'll be there for you. You can tell me anything, and absolutely everything. ;) Much love!!! Have a splendid weekend! :)) *TIGHT HUGS* *BIG KISSES* ^___^

NAFASG said...

Hello Joyce!

Nice to hear from u again. And this time we can see a more cheerful and bubbly Joyce! So happy for u that u have finally worked things out with your boyfriend.

We feel so overjoyed everytime we hear that our readers' lives change because of our articles. U are one living example! Thanks for trusting us in helping u solve matters of your heart. And we know that we can also count on u to be our confidante when we have problems ourselves. We are human beings after all, and can never run away from problems. So it is good to know that we have great friends whom we can turn to, like u of course! =)

U will always be our sis. We will support u all the way in this blogosphere, and in everything that u set your mind to do, including your relationship.

WE LOVE U JOYCE! Have a great weekend too. =) *hugs*

Amy said...

Thanks a lot for the post I am in the desastras situation and I don't know what to do.
My bf and I had a big fight 3 weeks ago and I was the one who throw in the line of 'lets break up'. He did come back to try to reconcile but I was terribly stubborn and had to commit to what i said in the first week. However I know it is a mistake and I have apologized sincerely thereafter, but his heart's hardened and returned all my stuff. We last met about 2.5 week ago and we hugged, he said he still loves me but said we need to go and find ourselves, and didn't want to talk about fixing it.
I knew he was hurt and needed space so its been 2 weeks since we last contact and i sent him a letter reviewing our relationship and the good times. but he still havent contacted me...is it time to move on? I haven't been able to eat or sleep much for the 2 weeks now....
pls help!