True Love Is….

True love is beyond words. Even after experiencing a milestone of your life, you will find that there is still a lot about true love that you have yet to discover.

We have no concrete research on this. All we have is our honest thoughts, as reflected in this series of questions that our buddy, Marzie, has tagged us.

The Rules

*Copy the questions and answer them honestly.

1. What does true love mean to you?

As far as we can see, true love is not only about accepting someone for his or her good qualities. It is also about accepting his or her imperfections. No one in this world is born perfect and when you truly love someone, you should not be expecting perfection. And if you truly love him or her, you would make an effort to amend those imperfections rather than rattling over them.

2. How do you know you're really in love?

Try giving yourself a day without seeing or hearing from this person. If true love has really gotten into you, that day without his or her presence would definitely make you feel perturbed and deficient. And every single day that you get to lay eyes on him or her, you would wish that that day would never go by too soon.

Find a day when he or she lands into a major mishap. If you love him or her so much, you would beat the odds to help and comfort him or her, even if it means you would lack of sleep or end up skipping meals.

3. How many times in your life have you fallen in love?

We are still enjoying life, and at the same time, searching for the true meaning of love. We may have written a number of articles related to love and marriage, but honestly, we too are still mastering the art of love. Hence, we have not tasted the bittersweet moments of love as yet, but we hope to find that soul mate that we have been looking for.

Crushes and infatuations do not count in this instance.

4. Have you ever fallen out of true love because you were mad at the moment?

Since we have never fallen in love, it should be elementary that we have never fallen out of love due to anger, and we pray hard that it would never happen to us in a million years.

5. Do you feel love and physical attraction are the same thing?

Love ignites the physical attraction, as we used to mention in our article on emotional and physical effects. If the physical attraction does not complement with the emotional attraction, it simply means that love did not exist between the two. Therefore, these two are separate issues, but you have a choice to make them mutual.

6. If your true love became ill or disfigured would you continue to love them the same way?

Yes, because remember, true love is also about accepting his or her imperfections.

7. Should anyone else be able to tell you who to love or not love?

It would be fine to open up to others’ opinions, but eventually, it is you who should have that final say because you know your feelings best. Read more about it in our article here.

8. Do you believe people that ended up divorced were ever truly in love?

They were probably not meant to fall in love, but they could have been destined to meet in order to learn some values of life from each other, and they should very well take their short lived marriage as an experience that they could learn a lot from.

9. Would you give up something you want for someone you love?

Yes, because to love is to sacrifice. Some things that you have given up on now could be taken back later, but true love happens once, and there can never be another.

10. If you truly love someone do you feel it should be unconditional?

That goes without saying.

There you have it! Our thoughts on true love deep from our hearts.

How about you? Come and share with us.

Rolando

Jesse

Lee Chien

-Nafa Danfad

Steps In Gaining Parental Approval Of Your Relationship

Love happens when two people set eyes on each other by fate and develop a bond that cannot be broken by anyone or anything, till death do them part.

But one would question sometimes whether or not you are fated to be with someone when your relationship is very much disapproved by others, particularly your parents.

Gaining your parents’ approval of your heart-to-heart connection with someone is truly a measure of how much you believe that true love will prevail. Some people may very well capitulate, thinking that they are never going to surpass their parents’ disapproval. Others would still find the way out no matter what and how long it takes.

A true believer of love would go all out to resolve such strains. A true believer of love would definitely read this article…

Here, we would like to share with you some of the steps you can take if you are in need of gaining approval from your parents about the person you love and the bond that both of you share.

1. Be truthful about your involvement with your partner and why you feel he or she is the right one for you. Find some useful ways for your partner and your parents to meet up and learn more about one another, in terms of lifestyle, hopes and dreams, and even likes and dislikes.

2. When parents disapprove of their child’s involvement with someone, they would have a heap load of things to say about him or her. Still, do not walk away from them. Be a good child to them and open your ears to what they have got to say about your partner. After all, you need not necessarily agree to their opinions.

3. Refrain from using provocations or threats against your parents. Sometimes you just need to understand that they have got nothing but love for you, and want nothing but the best for you. Try to be gentler in the way you convince them, and do it at your own pace. If your partner really loves you, he or she would not mind waiting for two or three more years, or rather, would not force you into marriage too fast.

4. Bring your parents along to go for a counseling session or workshop pertaining to premarital issues. In this way, they may feel a little more at ease after getting the assurance that you are aware of the negative impacts of loving someone such as early marriage or even pregnancy before marriage.

5. If the disapproval from your parents is causing you to think twice about your decision to marry someone, postpone it or cancel it. It is actually less upsetting to cancel the wedding than to file a divorce.

6. You may have managed to gain approval from them to marry the one you love, but that does not mean they have developed a liking for your partner. There is such a thing called disapproval after marriage. Therefore, you and your partner should discuss the limitations in the connection between the both of you and the both of them. This would less likely cause any further strains between you and them, as well as between you and your spouse.

7. You need not pressurize your partner to be present for your family outings or get-together sessions, but you should also ensure that your partner does not restrict you from being with your family. Your relationship with your family should never be broken no matter what.

8. Disapproval from your parents can lead to lack of trust and major contradictions between you and your partner. If it reaches that point, it is advisable for both of you to seek help from a marriage consultant.

It goes without saying how rough love can be when two important people in your life are not favorable of the person you want to build a life with. But then again, one may not understand and appreciate the true meaning of love if there are no obstacles that both of you need to overcome.

To those who are going through this rough patch of love, we truly understand and we hope you can take this as a test of how much you and your partner love each other.

Remember, love is about being there for each other not only through good times, but also, through bad times.

Women Are Always At The Losing End: True Or False?

It seems that this phrase has been recurrently used in drama series or movies, and it has certainly opened our eyes. Amazing how a few little words can get our minds thinking about it all day long. That phrase we are talking about is:

Women are always at the losing end

Yes, as some people would imply, if anything happens, women are always at the losing end. But one would question how this phrase could come about in the dictionary of phrases. In other words, why is it that when something breaks apart a relationship or marriage, women are the losers, and not men?

Let us go in depth into the phrase.

A man’s principal responsibility towards the woman is to support her, both financially and emotionally. He is best regarded as the stronger person who provides shelter from life’s stormy weather, and pretty much has a say in everything. So time after time, he may begin to realize that he has the power to do anything he wants and come what may, he would make certain that the woman would always stoop to his demands.

A woman’s responsibility, on the other hand, is to be the one to fill her man’s life with love and care, and most of the time be the water to put out the fire in him. As time goes by, she could end up being a slave for her man because when a woman loves a man, she would do anything for him, even at the expense of her happiness. She would cast aside herself only for him.

So what happens when the man asks for a break up, or files for a divorce? What consequences would the women have to put up with? And most importantly, would the women become the ultimate losers in this kind of matter?

Yes, they would.

Here is one example that can most clearly justify the answer to the questions. If there is a child involved in the entire picture, whether legitimate or illegitimate, he would not feel the obligation to take care of his child as much as the woman, because he was not the one who carried the child.

When he walks across the streets, no one would be able to tell that he is someone’s father. But as for the woman, she carried the child and she would be looked down on by her family, friends and the society, if she turns out to be an irresponsible mother to the child.

It is even worse if she got pregnant even before marriage. Imagine all the trouble she would have to undergo all by herself just because of her man’s doings. Doesn’t that make women the losers in a broken relationship or marriage? Isn’t the phrase ‘women are always at the losing end’ applicable to this? It is a thought provoking one.

On the contrary, the phrase is not applicable to all couples. For some, the women would triumph and the men would tumble and fall. This can happen especially when the women tend to take control of the relationship or marriage rather than the men. Such women are normally categorized as those who are more highly educated and come from richer and more powerful families, compared to their men.

Hence, they would take advantage of those facts to dominate everything and even decide things for the men. For such cases, the poor men are the ones at the losing end and being left to feel the constant intimidation towards their women.

All you fellow couples, whether married or still in the courting period, it is never good to make one of the parties at the losing end. The phrase may have seemed to be directing more to the women, but to us, we feel that both the man and woman should not emerge as losers.

Men should provide the women the true love and support. It is pointless to be earning loads of cash when you cannot even show how much you treasure them in your lives. As for the women, you may be well-educated and coming from a highly respected group of people, but always remember that you are women, and while taking pride in what you have achieved, you should never forget to give your love and respect to your men.

We have said enough. What about you? Have you got something to share with us about the phrase?

Do share with us.

Always Get What You Need, Not What You Want

Ever asked yourself what is a ‘need’ and what is a ‘want’? Ever had any idea that these two words are actually different in meaning? Many a times people believe that they both share the same meaning, but that is not the case.

A ‘want’ is something that your heart tells you to go for, but it is apparently not essential to your life. A fine example would be all those branded products and accessories that all of you can think of.

Yes, they give you a sense of style and confidence, but they are not the things that can help you survive in this world or bring death upon you if you do not have them.

A ‘need’, on the other hand, is also something that your heart tells you to go for, and as a matter of fact, it helps you get through life the way it should. Food, clothes, house, transport and your loved ones are the ones that you actually need in your life. Without them, your life could very well turn upside down.



Distinguishing between a ‘need’ and a ‘want’ is something that you may not want to take for granted, particularly when you are in a relationship with someone, and are on the way to that next phase of your relationship, which is marriage.

What you should always bear in mind is that the need is of higher priority as compared to the want, and both of you should never get easily carried away with all the wants in your lives and eventually face troubles in settling the needs.

Take this scenario for instance. You and your partner are planning to get married, and both or one of you would like to have a lavish and grand wedding just because you feel that weddings only happen once in your lives. But it is so obvious that a grand wedding is equal to a grand sum of money to pay for.

Don’t you think that you both would be better off if you plan a simpler wedding and then have some money saved up for your future expenditures and your children once you have begun your lives together?

This is one issue that couples do tend to cast aside when planning for their marriage life. They would get so carried away by their dream wedding, which is what they want, that they forgot how to prioritize the future of the marriage, which is what they need.

It is actually the needs of the marriage that are more important than the wants. Yes, the wedding may be the most memorable one, but would you prefer to create an unforgettable wedding, or an unforgettable marriage?

So to those who are on their way to tying the knots, always remind yourselves to place importance on what you feel you need in the future more than what you think you want for your wedding. It does not take an exorbitant wedding reception to tell everyone that you are happily married.

You can hold a simple wedding and still live a happy life together, and better still, be free from debts. Think of how marriage can be a breeze if you do not care too much about how grand your wedding is.

Most of all think of what your children can enjoy knowing that you both have kept that money for spending on them instead of splurging on a one-day event.

Remember, in marriage, always get what you need, not what you want.

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How To Let Go Of A Destroyed Relationship

Our blog is about bringing peace and love, and we always believe in the joy that love can bring into relationships. But as we all know, life is never a smooth ride and nobody is ever perfect. Without question, there would be bumpy roads awaiting you when you are in love with someone, and among these bumpy roads, the most challenging one would be when you are left with no choice but to let go of him or her.

Breaking up is hard to do. But when you love someone, you would want nothing else but to see him or her happy, and if he or she is happy being released, you would have to do it no matter how heavy your heart is.

It is actually not because he or she detests you, but it is most probably because both of you are going in different frequencies, and he or she just feels better off when you set him or her free.

When you are stuck in this situation, you know you have to get out of it someday. It is a painful process, but it would be pointless to dwell over it knowing that it is never going to work. Perhaps some of you here are enduring this predicament right now and are finding ways to mend your broken hearts. It is always possible to talk it out to friends or family members, but eventually, it is up to you to get yourself moving on from being haunted by the past. So how would you let go and move on from your destroyed love? Let us see what can be done to solve this problem:

Analyze whether your expectations of a life partner are too low. You are a human who deserves to be loved by someone who would stick with you till the end. Why tread into dangerous waters? Why lead a miserable life with someone who has betrayed you and left you alone? You should be leading a happy life, with a trustworthy and loyal person. So set higher expectations. You are entitled to do it.

Do not let your mind keep wondering about your former partner. When you do that, you are backing off from achieving your goals and dreams and depriving yourself of a better future. Concentrate on the rest of your aspects of life that you still can look forward to and go for.

Do not perceive everyone the same just because of your past relationship that did not work. Not all men and women are such hurtful people. Take your time to find it in your heart to believe once again. The beauty of love is that there is someone for everyone. All you need to do is have faith that there is a good person out there who will shower you with all the love you need.

Take that bitter experience as something that you can learn from rather than something you would sulk about. That is what an experience in life is for, even in relationships. If you can do that, things could turn out better than you thought, especially when you have finally found the right person.

Things in this world are never perfect. There is always a point in time where someone breaks your heart. But do not let that heartbreak bring you down to the ground. Be a hero, and pick yourself up. If you have to let go of your loved one, let him or her go and instill a strong belief in your heart that someday you will get the happiness you want. Yes, it is not an easy process, but you can do it if you make an effort to. Perhaps you may want to share with us if you had experienced having to let go of someone with a broken heart. We are here to listen and maybe help you out too.

Watch this beautiful music video on letting go


Speaking of letting go, we here are currently having this problem of letting go of three things. No it has nothing to do with relationships, but it has a lot to do with a tag by our dearest Jesse. Yes, she has tagged us to list three things that we simply cannot let go of and cannot live without.

These are the three things that we are talking about:

Family
They are our flesh and blood and they are the ones who have stuck with us through thick and thin. They are the people whom we should all the more treasure in our lives. At times conflicts would arise between our families and us, but at the end of the day, we know that our lives would never be the same again without them by our sides.

Food
People say money makes the world go round, but what makes our world go round is food. Food is a huge necessity for all of us anyway and we all need it in our daily lives. But of course, we always tell ourselves that we eat to live, not live to eat. So we try not to stuff ourselves too much with it as well. Still, we can never let go of food. There is never a day that we would forget about food glorious food.

Blogging
This blog has become a major part of our lives and we would feel that something is amiss if we do not get to attend to our blog. It is through our blog that we could showcase our writing skills and knowledge, and most importantly, it is through our blog that we made a lot of amazing friends. Letting go of blogging would mean letting go of our wonderful friends here. We would not be this happy bunch of people if not for the love and support from all of you. We need blogging and we need you all.

We have let you heard from us. Now we would like to hear from you, our chosen ones!

Jamilla
Apple
Jean
Jackie
Lee Chien

Relationships: Emotional Effects Versus Physical Effects

A true relationship between man and woman brings about astounding effects in both the emotions and physique. But the main question one would probably ask is which of these two effects would create a greater impact upon their individual self, and which of these two would make them crumble should their partners decide to flush them away from their lives.

There were researches conducted on this aspect of a relationship, and our team had also received tons of comments from readers and friends about their relationship experiences. From all of that, we can derive one answer to this. Emotional effects are the ones that create the bigger impact rather than the physical effects!

If one were to analyze the issue here, it is actually the emotions that form that strong bond between two people. It is the emotions that make the couple get physical with each other. Getting physical itself in actual fact does not bring any sort of meaning to a relationship, unless it is accompanied by the love and sparks for each other.

You can be holding hands and hugging somebody but it does not necessarily mean that you will fall in love with the person. After all, falling in love does not begin with a physical touch. The root of love and a beautiful relationship lies in the feelings that develop inside the moment you set eyes on each other. If all you want to do is get physical with someone, it is nothing more than just lust.

Physical attraction will never last a lifetime, but emotional attraction does. And when emotional attraction between you and your partner keeps going on and on, so will your physical attraction. So what we are trying to derive here is that when you and your partner are bonded by your love and feelings, both of you will enjoy the physical attraction for a long time as well.

It is a win-win situation for you in that case. However, if the relationship is established solely on the basis of physical attraction, it would be difficult for both to establish the emotional connection, thus having to bear the risk of losing the relationship sooner than you think. In this case, it is not a win-win situation. Both will lose out in the end.

So for you who are searching for that soul mate or have given a thought about submitting your heart and soul to someone you have met, ask yourself why you want to be in a relationship with the person. Is it because you have affirmed of your feelings and that you want to live your life forever with him or her? Or are you just merely attracted to his or her physique?

Because remember, relationships will work well when the physical effects comes together with the emotional effects. It is the emotional bond that can bring everlasting happiness to two couple till eternity, or make them crumble when they lose each other.

Secrets To An Everlasting Inter-Marriage

Marriage is a part and parcel of everyone’s lives. Some people may love it, but some may hate it. And some… may even put themselves to a test when it comes to marriage. These are the group of people who would plunge themselves into inter-marriage.

Inter-marriage is a kind of marriage brought to a whole new level. Some may survive that level, but others may fall. An inter-marriage is established by two distinctive people with two distinctive kinds of lives.

They can be divergent in terms of race, culture, religion, family background and other things that make up their overall lifestyles.

In inter-marriage, the bar is being raised, and the challenge gets even bigger. Couples who are involved in inter-marriage do have the tendency to believe that they can pull through the marriage as long as they love and devote to each other.

But when it comes to love between two different people, there is more than meets the eye.

Ever wondered how some inter-married couples can further strengthen their bond and hold on close to each other, despite their inborn differences?

This is how it should work...

1. They would make time to learn and understand each other’s lifestyles by talking it out.

2. They would introduce each other to their families, so that they will get to experience first-hand how it is like living and communicating with their families.

3. They would give themselves some time to get used to each other’s life backgrounds. They do not feel the urgency to immerse into the marriage world, and will do so when they have completely adjusted to their lifestyle differences.

4. They would give and take. In marriage, it takes two hands to clap. This is all the more so in inter-marriages, where there should be a two-way communication between each other.

5. They would possess great belief in their marriage, even though they were brought up differently. They would cast aside their differences and set their minds to think that they are both human beings who have love for each other and that they are equal in each other’s eyes and hearts.

6. They would NEVER show signs of discrimination towards each other. They would open their hearts to be receptive of each other for who they are rather than what they are.

These attributes are the keys to a fulfilling inter-marriage. So to all the inter-married couples out there, never give up hope in upholding what you both shared.

Being an inter-married couple that can stick to each other against all odds is something respectable. Most of all, it is a major sign of true love between two totally different people.

Where there is a will, there is a way....

The Couple’s Golden Key To Reconciliation

When one rages with fire, the other has to be the water to put out the fire. But it is easier said than done. It actually takes a willpower made of steel! Without this steeled willpower, you could be landing yourself into a grave mistake.

It is typical of couples to be at loggerheads with each other, especially over major issues. However, this typical act from couples can result in a major catastrophe, if not being handled ‘professionally’.

This is possible when two people do not make an effort to be consoling towards each other. Yes, maybe one of you has an anger that seems to be inconsolable, and that means the other has to take one step back and be the one to compose things. But it will become a total disaster if both are inconsolable, and both do not wish to take a step back.

One of you would be blurting out the phrase ‘Let’s break up!’ and, worse still, abruptly realize that it was a wrong move. And trying to turn things around would be the hardest task for you, if your partner whom you had forsaken in the first place had decided to move on.

Perhaps for that couple that just cannot soothe the fury within, you would need to count on us to be the ‘mediator’! This would be a good read for you.




 Even in the fit of anger, you should mind what you say. Anger can turn one into a ‘devil in disguise’ who would be spitting out fiery words to the other. But think! If you love someone, could you find it in your heart to spurt out such words? So focus on how much you love him or her, no matter how furious you are. Remind yourself of that and you would be able to avoid using harsh words on him or her.

 Browse through those lovely pictures or videos of both of you during your happy times. That can console you a little, and probably make you be moved to reconcile.

 Instead of pushing each other to the limits, act more like counselors to each other. Both of you should listen to each other attentively. Let one speak at a time! It is all right to show a little bit of frustration, but treat it more like a sharing session between the both of you, rather than a game of boxing.

 All in all, it comes back to mutual compromising between each other. Adapt to each other’s needs and character traits, and work things out from there. If you need to tell your partner what to work on, do so in a milder way. In that way, your partner would not feel intimidated, and would also not blow his or her top too easily.

As the saying goes, what is done cannot be undone. How does it apply to this matter?

As mentioned earlier, if you were to end the relationship abruptly, you may soon realize that you had made a terrible blunder, and trying to turn things back to normal will become a test of patience for you. So couples, heed our advice here.

Angers and breakups are not the solution to everything. As long as you believe in your relationship, there are always better ways to work things out.

Bearing The Consequences?

Premarital Sex: Do You Want To Bear The Consequences?
We are always taught since young to think before we act and that advice goes a long way. Heeding a priceless advice like this can make an immense difference in our way of life, and same goes when we do not heed it…

What can be most agonizing about not taking this advice seriously is that you will end up doing something without thinking, and worse still, bearing the unpleasant consequences that can turn your life upside down.

What we like to share with you is an act that can come from someone who does not want to reflect on the price he or she has to pay for doing it. This act is pre-marital sex.

First and foremost, we need to explore the results of carrying out pre-marital sex…


Ø You will become parents even before marriage.

Ø The female has to tolerate the pain and agony of carrying a child even before she is prepared for it.

Ø Both parties will be looked down on by friends and loved ones for carrying out a disgraceful action.

Ø Unnecessary conflicts will arise between the couple, causing friction in the relationship.

Ø The most unbearable and visible consequence of pre-marital sex: the baby. He or she would not be regarded as an ordinary child, but rather, an illegitimate child who was a result of lustrous desires and would grow to become an outcast in the eyes of the society.

In worse case scenarios, those ‘parents’ who do not wish to fulfill their responsibilities towards the child would abort or murder him or her. Ponder everyone!The ‘parents’ are the ones committing the sin and the poor child has to be punished brutally by being left unborn or being short-lived, when he or she has nothing to do with their horrendous actions.

What triggers two people to submit themselves to each other illegitimately?

Let’s look at these pulling factors:

Ø Being drunk and delusional can turn someone into a beast hungry for physical attraction.

Ø Failure to control sexual emotions can lead someone to doing such an act being carried out.

Ø Lack of life’s principles can make you go off-track.

Ø Being less educated on the issues concerning sex can also be a factor in this matter.

Ø Perhaps stress, too, can cause someone to plunge him or herself into it. Still, aren’t there better ways to release stress rather than this? There is only one simple tip on refraining yourself from immersing into this act. Avoid those factors listed above! But we will still list the tips down to provide more comprehensive information on how to handle this matter:

Ø Control your sexual emotions because you have the will to do it. This willpower can only work if you remind yourself to do so.

Ø Equip your life with principles that can raise you up as a better person.

Ø Learn more about the issues pertaining to sex. Attend sex education courses that can give you more details on physical and emotional effects of pre-marital sex.

Ø Find more effective ways to relieve stress, such as listening to the soothing music in our blog here!

Think about the deep cut that will stay in you for life if you actually resort to having sex before marriage. Think about the discernment that the society will have on you. Primarily, think about that innocent unborn soul who will have to face life’s harsh punishments because of you.

Please refrain from pre-marital sex. Do not play with fire.

Tips To Prepare For Your Wedding

Preparing For Your Big Day



Some of our faithful readers here would probably have found their special someone, and are all set to tie the knots. But perceptibly, it is not as simple as tying a knot literally…

Preparing for a wedding needs ample time and focus, and when the plan is executed, it is going to be frantic for the bride, groom and their family members and friends. So careful planning is essential so that the wedding that you have always been fantasizing in your bedroom will turn into the most beautiful dream come true!

There are various aspects of a wedding that you need to know when planning it. You would not want anything to cause unnecessary downfalls to your big day, would you? So take a look at this to-do list when arranging for your special day…

© Prepare a proper guest list. You should invite only those whom you are close to. Why would you need to splurge so much money to invite a hundred colleagues of yours when you are only close to a few of them? Why would you need to extend your invitation to distant relatives whom you have never met and talked to? Only invite those dearest to you, and that can save you from too much cost incurred and too heavy workload on the actual day.

© Plan your budget. Gauge what you can spend on and prevent yourself from overspending. You can allow for an amount that is a little out of budget, but could be useful for other items that you may need to purchase at the eleventh hour. Still, you are encouraged to spend within the budget and have some balance of the budget left.

© Invitations should be prepared a few months prior to the event. When preparing the invitation cards, please ensure that information in the cards are correct and there are no spelling or grammatical errors in them. They should be ready for mailing about four to six weeks in advance, so that the invited guests would be notified at least a week or two earlier.

© Mutual understanding between the bride and groom is imperative. Avoid too many disparities when planning for the wedding. Both should be open-minded to each other’s suggestions. Do not resort to involving parents into the matter. The matter should be kept at smaller scale and should be resolved quickly.

© Choose the right food caterer. In order to determine the most apposite caterer for the event, you can show up at restaurants of your choice as customers savouring their dishes and delicacies. Distinguish between the menus offered by the restaurants and opt for the restaurant that serves the best range of food to be your official caterer. Food is very important in all functions. It would become the gossip of the day if it does not accommodate to the guests.




© Plan the wedding date carefully. Discuss this with your partner, or seek assistance from a wedding consultant.

© Choose the right florist. The florist should be able to cater to the needs of both you and your partner. Ensure that he or she is able to provide the type and colour of flowers of your choice at a price within your budget. Selection of flowers is crucial as floral decoration is the item that turns a wedding into the most cherished moment for both of you.

© Communicate well with video takers and photographers. Prepare a hardcopy of the program schedule of the wedding. This will allow for proper coordination of the shooting done by them. The video and photos serve as memories for both the bride and groom to keep, so this should be done perfectly!

© Eat before your wedding commences. You would not want to turn frail and pale when making conversations with your guests. So this is absolutely important!

Your wedding day only happens once in your lifetime. Plan it carefully, and make it the most unforgettable day that you and your soul mate will want to share with your children and grandchildren in future. More wedding tips here.

Children With Dyslexia

This sentence, ‘I am eating an apple’, sounds very easy to read and comprehend. But if you ask a child who is diagnosed with dyslexia to read that simple sentence, he or she will picture it as one of the most difficult sentences he or she has ever come across.

Dyslexia is a mental syndrome that slows down the child’s thinking process. The child will encounter difficulties grasping even the simplest words or sentences. He or she will have troubles speaking and writing too. This health condition usually comes together with another disease called Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), a disease that causes a child to become prone to restlessness.

Dyslexia can sometimes be resulted from heredity from a family member. It can strike any child, regardless of age and gender. Hence, this condition should be identified as early as possible, because the older they get, the worse it can be.

Let us explore some steps that parents can put into practice to assist these children:

ü Get to the root of the problem with your child’s mental disabilities. Learn more about what he or she cannot read, write and understand. In this way, you will be able to determine how you would tackle this matter effectively.

ü Examine how your child studies something. Maybe he or she learns better with anything other than books, like with his or her ears. And perhaps he or she has an extraordinary talent that needs to be realized.

ü Create a positive environment for your child. Make him or her feel that he or she is just like any other children who have the rights to learn something in life.

ü Dyslexic children are prone to mistakes, so you should play a role model and teach your child how to tackle mistakes.

ü Concentrate on what the child can excel in. We are not born to be able to do everything, but we can do some things well and continue to improve on those areas that we can achieve excellence in.

ü Talk to the teacher to get more updates on the child’s progress and discuss what both of you can do to help the child.

ü You can allow the child to expose to television or radio. Usually, dyslexic children will have a better comprehension of the vocabulary and, at the same time, will be more motivated to pay attention. You can also pose a few questions based on what they have listened.

A dyslexic child is not stupid. The child just needs a bit more time than some other children. But as long as you, the parents, do not give up on helping your child, he or she will smell success in future, just like other ordinary children.

Tips On Intimacy

Intimacy – Staying Strongly Bonded Emotionally And Physically

Intimacy is a certainty to couples that have not known each other for too long. During the courting stages of the relationship, couples would just portray themselves as two tender, loving and caring individuals, without a care of whether they are being watched by others or not.

They would be living in the world of their own, and the only thing that sticks in their minds is to hold on to each other until the end of time and not let anything or anyone tear them apart.

Getting intimate is one thing…but staying intimate is another.


Wondered how couples that have been married for several years could still stay close to each other, despite facing each other every single day, hour and minute?

Wondered why some couples that have known each other only for a short period of time, could discontinue being intimate and even end their relationship abruptly?



First of all, let us explore the possible causes of lack of intimacy between the couple:

v When one gets so intimate with the other, the other may feel restricted physically and obligated to please the partner.

v One of the two individuals could have been touched before and feels despicable about being touched again. This is especially common among women.

v One fears that his or her family members and friends would be cast aside if he or she grows so close to the partner.

v One could have phobia of trusting the partner and, in the end, be taken advantage of. It usually happens to an individual who had encountered this misfortune before.

v Overall perception of intimacy among couples is that sex is a must. Not everyone can be easily up for it because he or she would ponder more on the painful side of sex rather than the pleasurable side of it.

All these tend to develop due to the individual’s loss of control over his or her emotions towards intimacy. When this happens to one, the other would feel discarded, worthless, and ugly.

This matter is treatable. It all lies in the hands of the two people who can make or break the relationship…

We will guide you a little on ways to improve intimacy among each other, even after being attached for so long:



1. Treat each other like best friends. It would be sweet to constantly remind each other of anything associated with love, but do not indulge too much in it. Both of you can talk about everything else under the sun like what friends would do. In this way, both will feel less restricted, and in fact, fondness in your hearts will develop even further.

2. Do not let the past haunt you. The thought of plunging yourself into a relationship mistakenly before this can cause a permanent scar, but do not let the scar conquer your affections for your partner. Think ahead and plan for your future together. That can keep your mind off the haunting past.

3. Balance your time with you partner and your family and friends. You can bring your partner along to meet up with your family members and friends when they call you up for gatherings or outings.

4. As mentioned in the second solution, do not let the past haunt you. Do not let your previous bitter experience of being taken advantage of stop you from trusting your partner. What happened in the past may not necessarily happen again in the present and future. Give your partner a chance, and get to know him or her.

5. Only talk about sex when the right time comes. Do not pressurize each other with the topic. Love is not all about sex. And sex cannot work without love. Take it slowly. If true love prevails among the both of you, the feeling of wanting sex would come naturally.

Intimacy does not come and go with age. Age is not the cause of the couple’s need for intimacy or loathe for intimacy. Eventually, it all depends on the two individuals who come together and form a bond between each other.

Good luck in maintaining a wonderful relationship. May your bonds stay strong and may your love stay alive till eternity…

What A Man And Woman Really Wants

What A Man And Woman Really Wants....

Before entering into any serious relationship, one has to start the ball rolling. Conventionally, it is always the men who would make his first move on wooing the women. But modernization has created a major change in women too.

In other words, women are beginning to plunge into making that first move. That is a trivial matter. Provided that you, regardless of your gender, have the wits to make it happen. You would not want to create a disaster out of your efforts to astound that person you have been eyeing on right?

These useful information can give you a lucid picture of how you should kick start a beautiful sincere relationship.

First up goes out to the men. What makes a woman eager to accept a man’s offer of knowing each other more deeply?

 She does not like a man who asks for something major out of the relationship too fast. She tends to feel apprehensive when a man makes his moves too desperately. The man should start things slowly and steadily. Take this time to learn about each other, and start off with a sincere friendship. In this way, she would feel like she is not pushed into the relationship, and in fact, would be as keen to know you as you are to her.

 She likes a man who does not interrogate her. A woman usually needs some time to open herself up to a man. She would spill the beans once she has found a comfort zone in you. Give her time and space. You can ask about her aspirations and achievements. Or talk about some comedic experiences that she had! That would be quite good to get both of you mingling!

 She despises ‘sweet talkers’. A woman is not shallow. If the love develops in her, she would love the man for who he is and not for the sweet words that he uses to mesmerize her. So do not jump into sweet-talking! Be assured of your feelings for her before you let it all out to her in words.

 She does not need to be treated like a china doll. All she needs is to know the man. So it is not necessary for you to bring her to posh places. You should bring her to places where you can view Mother Nature. She could easily find a comfort zone in you if you do so.

Ok ladies you are up next! What makes a man keen on knowing a woman as much as the woman?

 Just like all of you, he does not like a woman who is desperate. He especially loathes ‘stalkers’. Please give way to him. A woman is supposed to be the more patient party. It is all right to make the first move and tell him the truth, but be subtler in handling it.

 He likes a conservative woman, well mannered in words and actions. You can be forthcoming to him but do not allow your extroversion to go overboard. A man would always prefer a woman who is friendly yet reserved.

 He does not always wish to entertain your melodramatic ways. Being melodramatic is a woman’s natural behavior but do not go beyond the limits. Just talk normally to him.

 Do not demand to be spoiled with flowers, candle light dinners and an overload of presents. In true relationships, materialism is not found in the dictionary. He would try his best to provide you what he could if he shares the same feelings as you do, and you should reciprocate by appreciating what he has done for you.

To all of you here who are making plans to fess up to someone you have been admiring from afar, read this up! They would come in handy! Good luck in your pursuit to make that someone yours to keep. If you succeed, treasure that person with all your life.

Anger Management

There is never a day when nobody or nothing makes you angry. When you are a teacher, you would get mad with students who are overly mischievous. When you are a boss and your staff has breached your trust in him or her, you would feel upset. When you are a parent and your child disobeys you, you would get worked up.

Simply said, when someone is not fulfilling your wishes deliberately or something does not seem to go your way, that is when anger gets the better off you! But do not prolong it.

Prolonged anger can actually lead to mental disorientations. You would not be able to carry out your tasks or activities as planned as your mind is still cumbersome with the unpleasant situation. It can even affect you physically.

When you get angry, more of the face muscles are being used up compared to when you are smiling. This can make your face wrinkled and look older even at a young age. It also affects your blood pressure. Too much anger can apparently cause the shooting up of blood pressure.

Most of all, it is unhealthy for you emotionally. You would become less cheerful and even end up stabbing the hearts of other people around you, even though you were merely in the fit of anger. Nevertheless, it is still treatable. No worries!

Let's take a look at ways for you to manage your anger and revert back to your own self again…

q Stand or sit somewhere a bit further from where you were, and take deep breathes. Inhale and exhale slowly. This is one way of consoling yourself after having to grasp everything that makes you rage with fire.

q Drink some water or rinse your face. Water is meant to put the fire down anyway. So keeping your throat or face moist would be of great help for you.

q Find someone whom you can relate to about this. However, do not make him or her your punching bag. Keep your cool a little and talk it out gently.

q If you do not really have a confidante to talk to, you can jot it down on your personal diary. At least the anger has been transformed into words and you would feel a little bit consoled by then.

q Go to a place where you can feel the breeze blowing soothingly on your face. Lay your eyes on greeneries or the sea and you will be able to find a peace of mind and heart.



q Make use of your daily entertainment like watching television or listening to the radio. Watch a comedy to give yourself a good laugh. Listen to smooth tunes that can calm your body and soul. Like the songs here in our website!

q Smile it away. Putting a smile on your face would gradually remove the anger in you. Mingle around with people who would smile together with you.

There are some of us who seem to find anger management such a chore. Things do not go your way all the time, and some people just do not want to see you happy in life. But do not let these setbacks stop you from being the normal person you want to be. Be strong willed and positive in attitude, and you will stop anger from dominating your soul!

Let these tips help you escape from the raging fire in you. You can even share with us your experiences and other ways to manage anger. Perhaps you can talk it out to us whatever that makes you fuming, and we will gladly lend you our helping hands.

The Sociological Interaction

What does securing a business deal, establishing a friendship, or chatting online, have in common? They may be actions of different nature, but these actions involve social interaction.
Interaction takes place in one-to-one or group conversations.

As long as there is a verbal communication between different parties, the act of interacting will be present. Sadly, some instances associated with interacting can consequently turn into a discriminative issue. Let us view the sociological perspectives that encompass interaction among people.

Functionalist Perspective
Functionalist perspective talks about whether an intentional or unintentional action taken by someone or a group of people can benefit or destroy the well being of the society, globally or within the nation. Interaction between people can serve as a function or dysfunction. An example that depicts the interaction becoming a function is when two or groups of people of different racial backgrounds are sharing ideas or giving suggestions over a project.

Both parties will gain knowledge through the brainstorming session, thus making the project a success and providing benefits or ‘functions’ for both parties. Such a discussion can also turn into a dysfunction if not being handled professionally.

Let us take a look again at the example that was just given. Among the group, there is a member who belongs to a racial background that is looked upon as the lower class. He or she wants to contribute ideas to the project, but the rest who are of higher class than him or her disregard the ideas contributed, due to the level of class in the society he or she belongs to. This is how a dysfunction can result in an interaction.

Conflict Perspective
The conflict touches on the issue of discrimination between different groups of people. More often than not, the high-class society would discriminate the low or middle class ones. And when that happens, both classes would be competing for resources and rights in any issue or event that takes place. In interaction between the higher class and the lower class there is bound to be a conflict of understanding. I am sure some of you had heard of the movie ‘Yamakasi’.

Yamakasi is a group of ordinary men who landed themselves into a mission: to save the life of a boy who had to go for a heart transplant. The operation was too expensive for the parents to pay but the price could not be negotiated with the Heart Transplant Corporation, an organization that consisted of staffs who were rich. In this scenario, there was a conflict in interaction between the boy’s parents who were not well to do and the staffs who were wealthy. The parents were deprived of their entitlements just because of their lower status as compared to the staffs.

Interactionist Perspective
Interactionist Perspective involves labeling, which is made based on perceptions of somebody or a group. When interaction between the higher class and lower class occurs, both classes will label each other from the way they communicated.

The higher-class group would be labeled as educated yet arrogant people whereas the lower class group would be labeled as uneducated and unknowledgeable in anything they do or say. But sometimes, that is not the case. There are many things in life that the higher class does not know, and there are many things in life that the lower class may know, despite the vast difference in their educational backgrounds.

Feminist Perspective
From the word ‘feminist’, you should know that this perspective is focused on the rights and status of the women in the society. During the ancient periods of time, women are disadvantaged in terms of freedom of speech and to socialize and work for a living. In today’s context, interaction between men and women has been brought to a whole new level.

Women can make business dealings or become lawyers who have their say in a court case. On the contrary, there are instances whereby gender discrimination are still being practiced. An obvious example is when women are being exiled from contributing ideas and playing a role in decision-making in companies that are overseen by male bosses.

Readers, interaction can bring peace to the world if we can accept it with a positive mind. In this world today where we have received ample education and exposure to the corporate life, we should even more so avoid letting all our racial backgrounds, skin colour, economical status and gender status cause barriers to develop in the global society.

We interact not to compare against each other, but to learn from each other.

We are all created equal, and we are all here to bring goodness and harmony to the world. That is why at Nafa, we let you speak your mind, regardless of who you are.

Tips To Make Your Partner Love You Today…And Every Day…

Being in love is bliss. Every one of you here would wish to throw yourself into it. Just envisage the butterflies in your stomach when you fall in love with someone for the first time, and how much you do not want that moment to end.

That hypothetically marks the beginning of a powerful bond being created by two people who have been head over heels for each other. Unfortunately…that may not sum up the relationship you wish to get yourselves into.

And that sparkling jiffy does not affirm the everlasting love that it should be…So here is the question of the day, “How can I make my relationship stay intact forever?”

The primary hurdle in a relationship is the inborn difference between a man and a woman. Well, as the saying goes, one man’s meat is another man’s poison. What a man likes may not be well liked by the woman, and vice versa. So the key to winning each other’s heart at all times…is by understanding the needs and wants of the opposite sex.

Here are some tips for both the men and the women to take note:

1. It is alright for a man to be short-tempered, but only if there is a valid reason to back that up, such as if you have found out that your girlfriend is evidently betraying you. Sometimes a man likes to make the girlfriend the ‘punching bag’ after a bad day. Still, try to grip hold of yourself. You can always talk it out, and rest assured, she would give you her listening ear.

2. A woman can get so carried away by her emotions that she may flout the fact that the man needs to be emotionally comforted too. So if you know that he is facing a calamity and needs to be heard, try to set aside your problems first and help him out. You must take into account that his problem may be bigger than yours, and that these problems may turn him into someone you do not wish to see. So give him some space. And then when he feels a little bit better, you are all set to tell yours to him.

3. A woman would never ask for anything more than just love, attention and empathy. So to the man, try to look at these aspects as something that is not such a big burden to carry. After all, they do not cost you money. All you need to do is just spend a little time making her smile.

4. This is especially a great idea for the woman. Cook something! Because your cooking can make the relationship go a long way. After all, the key to his heart is by filling his empty stomach.

5. The woman should put a smile on the face. A woman’s smile can bring peace to the heart and mind. And if the man gets to see it, it would brighten up his darker moments.

6. With the presence of technology, there is not much of an excuse for you not to make a call or send a text message. Set aside just a few seconds or minutes off your busy time, and that would make his or her day and night complete.

7. When one turns into fire, the other should be the water to put the fire out. Yes! That is so vital, and would be pleasing to each other.

8. Come what may, just stick with each other. Both of you will feel lucky to have each other and make you just want to be with each other for life.

Now those are what it takes to keep the relationship rolling! To all couples, may your love life stay strong and blissful till the end of time!